So sad to hear about your struggles and I can certainly relate.

I started transitioning about five years ago and face very similar challenges.

I’ve come to realize that environment is key—both external and, especially internal.

I don’t “pass” as a woman and gave up trying. Instead I developed my own unique style and it feels great to just be authentic. I choose to be happy.

I’ve also found a place to live (in the summer for now) where there’s so many queer folks and diversity is celebrated, and it does make a difference.

Changing the things I can and accepting what I can’t was the starting point on my path to liberation and happiness.